Loving What Is In Relationship

The masculine is most at home in emptiness, stillness, nothingness - and emotions are anything but that! - which is why most men try to fix the emotional upset of their partners.

Emotions can be uncomfortable, confronting, chaotic, and messy and most masculine-identified beings would much prefer the nothingness / completeness of a solution found or problem solved to the complexity of intricate emotions.

Yet when you are there trying to fix or to find solutions, to a feminine being, you’re not helping - you're invalidating the truth of their experience.

They don’t want you to fix it or make it different.

They want you to acknowledge, to empathize, and to just be with their upset.

Sounds simple, right?

It will actually be the hardest sh*t you'll do all day.

It will challenge the capacity of your heart and your nervous system.

It will force you to surrender into the present moment and not run to the past or future for the escape of reasons or solutions.

But ironically, this counter-intuitive move gives you what you want and them what they want, which in the end, is the connection of both freedom and love together.

The practice becomes then a turning toward the upset, and sitting in empathetic stillness within any and all emotional storms or challenges.

Practice acknowledging how they’re feeling.

Empathize with their experience.

And be with it all with the fullness of presence you are capable of.

And without agenda or need, love what is.